I think there comes a point in everyones life when you hear that little bell in your head and are hit with that voice that asks you ‘why do you keep trying?’, i’m referring to friendships of course but tbh all types of relationships can be applied to this.
I’ve never been the type of girl who had one specific group of friends that did everything together, i’m more of a friend here and there sort of girl if you know what I mean? I can count on one hand the number of close friends I have and i’m just fine with that, in fact I prefer it.
I like to think of myself as a good friend, I mean I try to be and always have tried, I stand by them no matter what’s going on in their lives, support them, tell them when they’ve done something stupid or fucked up and just have a good ole time with them no matter what that entails. I’m not the kind of friend that needs to be going out all the time, i’m happy just chilling in their place or mine having a cuppa and a chat … pretty low maintenance really. I’m also a really forgiving person which I now kinda see as a bit of a weakness for myself because how many times can you forgive someone for doing the same thing over and over after giving so many chances already? I hate losing people and I know this is a big issue for me, I’m afraid of people who are important to me just leaving but thats a whole other therapy session in its self.
The point of this post is to just reinforce to myself and to you guys that effort in friendships, relationships, whatever shouldn’t be one sided and yes I completely understand there are genuine reasons why ‘your mate had to cancel on tomorrows plans’ i’ve had to do it myself several times because of work, illness and random circumstances but when that said mate cancels again and again and again (you get my point) it becomes a chore to even want to try and organise something else because you just think ‘well why should I?’ and the answer to that … you shouldn’t, so sit back and wait for them to come to you for a change, and if they don’t, well fine they obviously arn’t a friend worth keeping!
I don’t want you to think that i’m here just having a bitch about all my friends because this certainly doesn’t apply to the majority because hand on my heart I don’t know what i’d do without them! I just think life is already hectic and stressful at times and your friends should be a positive impact on your life, not another reason for you to worry or think you’ve done something wrong. It may be my old age talking but i’m all about tossing out that big bag of negative energy and surrounding yourself with people who bring you happiness, positivity and a heck of a lot of laughs.
YOU DO YOU BOO ❤